How do you handle this?

When my grandfather talks to other people in the family, namely his brother and sister, he tends to repeat himself over and over (which is normal, lol) but since he's been here, he seems to tell all kinds of stories which just aren't true. Most of it doesn't matter, so I don't even bother correcting him or talking to the relatives directly when he's not around.

Some of it though is starting to annoy me. He said this doctor we saw thinks he's perfectly fine and seeing him was a waste of time. Um not true. He also said that he's going home next week (not true, but he isn't always day oriented) and various other things. Like it's freezing and miserable weather, but today it was sunny and 90 out.

I let the little things go, but its frustrating to have him telling his relatives his medical status and be completely wrong. Then when I talk to them they are stunned and 'had no idea' etc... I constantly feel like the wet blanket, lol.

Who really knows whats going on in their minds lol. Yes, that can be unerving at times. My LO sometimes tells tales too. I usually don't correct him unless its something that is way out of line or so unreal that he would look foolish...then I try to preserve his dignity....although he may not always think thats what I am doing. The wild things the mind can do never ceases to amaze me.

Sadly, I don't think your Grand Father is telling stories he is telling what he believes is true, I wouldn't worry about others in time they will come to see it too! You have way too much other stuff to think about and do!

When my Mr B. and I are alone, I let him talk unless he asks a direct question, such as the time, who am I, etc. When others are present and they give me a quizzical glance, I smile sweetly as if Mr B and I have a special understanding and if that is what he thinks, far be it from me to interfere.

Later if it is necessary I can say that is the way he precieves it at this time.

When he talks about not needing the doctors, and such, I don't make a big deal about that or he will put up an argument and never back down. He is really trying to convince himself and is talking to himself about it. {I find out a lot obout his inner fears, wishes, concerns by listening to what he tells himself]

In the beginning he would not remember that I had told him about an event and would tell everyone around that I never told him anything. I accepted the blame and told him I was sorry I thought he knew. What purpose would it serve to announce that I was right and he was wrong?

I know it is hard. Be strong and trust yourself.

DrP

We've had a problem the last 3 weeks. I take my pup to training at 6pm every Monday. The last two in particular, he knew where I was going before I left but by the time I got home he was snippy to me and I couldn't figure out why.

The first time he said he had no idea where I was and wouldn't ask my husband where I was.

Last Monday he said he thought I was taking him somewhere and I left without him.

Both times of course he made me feel like a horrible person for leaving him for 2 hours. WITH MY FAMILY, IN THE HOUSE, WELL-FED, etc. You'd think I had locked him outside naked in the cold. Ah well, this is the new life I have to adjust to I guess!

My Mother lives with me and she does the same type of thing if I step out. I'm with her unless I have a dentist or doctor appt then a neighbor stays with her or I get groceries when my brother is here once a week. You'd think she had been abandoned. -she also tells people the darndest things. I ignore it unless it is dangerous. It can be frustrating but not nearly as frustrating as trying to convince her she's wrong
Sharon

Sounds like this is a pretty normal topic for most of our LOs...a thread in common. Interesting.

Last week was a really bad week here.
pop says that I'm taking up sides against him. If I try to explain anything to him he comes unglued and says I didn't used to be that way.
He had had 2 good weeks physically and mentally and this past week well made up for it. He has been much worse than he was. He got a paper from the VA and when he read it he thought that the VA was cutting off his benefits. I had to tell him for days that the VA aint cutting him off.
Yesterday he decided that he could drive the lawn mower. He ran it straight into a ditch and stuck it and he didn't even have the blades turned. He got over that and decided to use the leaf blower. He didn't put the gas cap back on after he filled it and it took him a long time to figure out what he'd done. He filled it again and then he ended on the ground and the blower on top of him.
I have to let him see for himself that he can't do it. If I told him NO you can't do that he'd bust a gut or do it. When our 27yr old got home from work, he got the mower unstuck and put it up and hid the key. Then, he put the leaf blower in a locked building and even took my key and put them up. pop took it better than I thought he would but it's not settled down yet.
It seems like the symptoms are different every day! I tell pop that I don't know what side of the fence he's gonna be on!
Yall have a good one
nanny

OH my goodness. I thank my lucky stars that Dada isn't that bad yet. He actually sees now that he's declined and he's more resigned than anything. Sometimes he thinks we baby him or we are doing too much for him but then he struggles just to do simple things like shaving, and realizes that ok maybe we're not making things up.

He fell asleep sitting in a restaurant at lunchtime with my sister and I and my almost 4yr old bouncing around next to him. So cute.

Looks to me like the lunch conversation might have put Dad to sleep or perhaps the outing did him in.